By Shannon Smith
A woman’s guide to men
I have said before that there is no guide book for relationships, but maybe it will help if we get to know men a little better. In this article I wanted to give you a better idea of why men are asking for sex more often than women and give you a better understanding of their physical make up.
Reading Dr. John Gray’s new book Mars and Venus in the Bedroom made me realize men and women are different in terms of their needs. According to Dr. Gray, they have been developed through thousands of years not to feel. Their primary goal was to be a protector and provider. There was no place for sensitivity, emotions, and feelings. Think about it… men went to war, hunted, farmed etc. For many men having sex is a way for them to open up to their feelings. When a man has sex, he is closest to his feelings and when he arouses a woman, she gives him the most important thing he needs which is acceptance.
I love this quote in Dr. John Gray’s book: ”A man doesn’t instinctively understand that a women’s sexual needs are dramatically different from his in bed. He mistakenly assumes that what makes him happy will make her happy.”
Hormones are responsible for arousal. For men, they quickly build up and quickly release after orgasm. Women are able to build their arousal up slowly, allowing them time before it becomes a physical desire for sex. Since men quickly build up and release these hormones, they desire sex more often.
Through masturbation, women are able to find out how their own body works. But how do we learn about men? Well, let’s learn about the male penis.
Meatus ~ “peehole”. This is the very tip of the male’s urethra. This is what carries urine and semen out of the penis.
Glans ~ “head”. Top part of the penis designed for penetration and pleasure.
Corona ~ “ridge”. Tender ridge that encircles the base of the head where it meets the shaft.
Frenulum ~ “v-spot”. Ultra sensitive skin that forms a “v” on the underside of the penis. Between the head and shaft.
Tender spot ~ sensitive area where the bottom of the shaft connects to the scrotum.
Ball seam ~ vertical line along the middle of the scrotum.
Testicles ~ “balls”. Two round glands that produce sperm.
Scrotum ~ “sack”. Soft wrinkly pouch that holds the testicles.
Prepuce ~ “foreskin”. Loose hood of skin that covers the head of the penis on an uncircumcised man
Did you know?
- 60% of newborn males are circumcised in North America. 15 % worldwide.
- many guys think they’re smaller than they are. When they look down their perspective provides them a smaller impression.
- a man’s hand, foot, nose, or car size has nothing to do with the size of their penis.
Another quote I love from Dr. John Gray’s book: ”When mom said that the way to a man’s heart was through his stomach she was about four inches too high.” When we accept and respect men – they respond better to women. Keep in mind “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.”
Sources: Dr Sadie Allison “Tickle his Pickle”, John Gray Ph.D “Mars and Venus in the bedroom”, and Drew Pinsky, M.D and Adam Carolla with Marshall Fine “The Dr. Drew and Adam book. A Survival Guide to Life and Love.”
One Comment on "A Woman’s Guide To Men"
I guess we both like to hear that our ‘parts’ are big and nice – breasts and penises alike. I never like to hear from my hubby that my breasts are small. A stranger once told me I had nice, perky breasts…I was shocked but it did make me feel better about myself even though it’s superficial. Who doesn’t appreciate a positive comment about their body? My man loves to hear about how he’s a “big boy”. What do your men like to hear?