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Destroying our Inner Enemies

Mon, 29 Jan 2018 11:05:47 +0000

Rick TitanIn our daily lives we have all kinds of situations which cause us stress, worry, anger, hanging on to old stuff (attachment) and avoidance (aversion). Our minds, conscious and subconscious react negatively to these situations – our Storylines and we become mentally or even physically unhealthy because of these ‘allergic reactions’. Really, it’s our Storylines – the Histamines that cause us what is called Dukkha in Sanskrit. Dukkha is Suffering. We would think that it’s the person, event or thing that’s causing us this reaction but it’s not. It’s how we handle it. If we handled everything from a space of peace and serenity, we would never suffer. Our state is something that requires a great deal of effort. Like working on being an Olympic athlete, we can’t one day decide we want to go into the Olympics and simply claim a medal. We have to train rigorously for it. We can’t suddenly decide one day that we wish to be calm and happy and for that much-needed state to just magically appear! We have to practice it – rigorously. That’s why Spiritual Practice is needed; that’s why a guide may be necessary. Ever wonder why there are so many people with Life Coaches or Counsellors out there today? It’s because they can give us different information than we have. We have to take that information and put it in the place of our old way of being if we want to develop and move ahead in life. We need practice. Meditation or Personal Development is a daily thing. Just like exercise; if we stop – so will the results.

For example, I’ve been in two car accidents in my life; once when I was still a practicing professional wrestler and later as a student of a Buddhist Monk. The first one, I was angry, and I was attached to my vehicle. It was the most important thing in the world to me. My money, my body, me, me, me. Completely Egocentric. Self-absorbed. At the time I didn’t care about the other person or their vehicle. I was fuming and ready to fly off the handle on them. Fortunately I did the politically correct thing and didn’t. But I was really out-of-sorts for days about this. “My car! How dare they!” I thought. The second time I was in a car accident, I realized I wasn’t hurt. I was understanding and compassionate because I realized that this was only an accident and it wasn’t intentional. I knew that my car would be fixed in a few days; I wondered if the people were okay. I wasn’t even close to freaking out! I was aware of my state.

Suffering is the result of a reaction to our story. That’s all it is. Once we can defeat our Inner Enemies – Anger, Attachment and Aversion, we will stop suffering. The ‘Antihistamines’ or remedies to these inner problems are Compassion, Non-Attachment & Acceptance. This is easier said than done though, right? More on the remedy soon.

About the author: Rick Titan was born and raised in Vancouver B.C. and moved to Calgary in 1989 to pursue a career as a professional wrestler with Stampede Wrestling and the Harts. A former world heavyweight and tag-team champion, he wrestled for 10 years internationally in places such as Japan, Austria, Germany, Mexico, Puerto Rico, all over Canada and the U.S. where he worked for the World Wrestling Federation (now WWE).

After a rough & tumble sports entertainment career Rick chose to train his mind as hard as he trained his body. He has studied various philosophies over the last 13 years and found answers to better his own life as well as to coach others. He is a meditation teacher and works extensively in the personal development arena.

Crispy Sweet Potato Fries

Mon, 29 Jan 2018 10:56:26 +0000

Ingredients:

1 lb sweet potatoes, cut into sticks
2 eggs, beaten
1 tbsp water
½ cup bread crumbs
2 tbsp grated parmesan cheese
¼ tsp cayenne pepper
¼ tsp paprika
¼ tsp black pepper
½ tsp coarse salt
2 tsp olive oil

Method:

Preheat oven to 450 degrees F. Spray a rimmed baking sheet with cooking spray.
In a shallow bowl, whisk together egg and water.
In another shallow bowl, stir together bread crumbs, parmesan, cayenne, paprika, black pepper, and salt.
Dredge the cut sweet potatoes through the egg mixture. Allow the excess to drip off, then add to the bread crumb mixture, turning until completely coated. Place the coated fries in a single layer on the prepared baking sheet. Drizzle with olive oil.
Bake for 30 minutes, stirring occasionally, until fries are browned and crisp. Serve immediately with Spicy Sour Cream Dip (below).

Spicy Sour Cream Dip

¼ cup light sour cream
¾ tsp hot sauce (I used Frank’s Red Hot Wing sauce)
½ tsp Worcestershire sauce
Parsley

Mix the sour cream, hot sauce, and Worcestershire sauce until well blended. Keep chilled until ready to serve. Sprinkle with parsley just before serving.

Zippy Hummus with Dippers

Mon, 29 Jan 2018 10:52:57 +0000

ZIPPY HUMMUS
Adapted from The Eat-Clean Diet Cookbook 2 by Tosca Reno

Ingredients:

1 15-oz can organic no-salt added chickpeas, drained and rinsed
1 clove garlic
2 Tbsp tahini (sesame seed paste)
juice of 1 lemon
1/2 tsp ground cumin
1/8 tsp cayenne pepper
1/2 tsp sea salt
1/8 tsp freshly ground black pepper
3 Tbsp extra virgin olive oil

Instructions:

Put all ingredients into a blender and blend until smooth. If mixture is a too thick or chunky, add a little bit of water or olive oil until you reach your desired consistency.

For On The Side:

RW Garcia has made its chips with wholesome, simple ingredients including stone-ground, verified non-GMO corn. All the company’s chips are certified gluten free and contain no trans fats, additives or preservatives. Your kids will love them!

Parenting Advice

Mon, 29 Jan 2018 10:14:41 +0000

I always recommend a slow integration to a new or unfamiliar childcare situation. I would first ask the parent to bring their child with them and stay for the entire visit.

Allowing the child to feel comfortable and safe is the key here. The next time, you could try a different time of the day. For example, if you visited at 10 am until 12, then come the next time from 2 to 4pm. This way, your child will be able to see different parts of his or her new day. The next visit, the parent may feel confident enough to try (leaving for a small amount of time). Even a 1/2 hour will give your child enough time to realize you are not there, but (very)soon later to be reconnected with you. A few attempts at this, and things should start to go smoothly.

Being A calm, confident happy Mom is the BEST way for your child to see that their new childcare provider is safe, and that Mommy has NO problem leaving (you) with them.

Toddlers/babies are amazing at reading our body language they can sense when we are uneasy or unsure, and a weary mother will definitely create a weary child. Make your drop offs quick, happy, and routine! Your child will have a better send off to their day if you do this!

Also, talking about daycare when you are at home will help your child get used to her new ‘world’. Perhaps purchase a special lunch bag, or inside shoes for his or her new daycare. Keep everything as upbeat and positive as you can. Placing a family photo in his or her backpack may also help for those times when your child misses you, or is feeling sad.

Question: How do you deal with a child who is hitting or scratching other children?

Lexie says:

If your child is continuously hitting another child (or you) it all comes down to proper wording from the parent (caregiver).

“It’s NOT okay for you to hurt Jesse’s body!

“Can you see that he is sad, and that he is crying?”

“You need to ask him if he is okay. Can you think of a way to help him right now?”

Asking a child to apologize for something they are not sorry for is useless. Making them acknowledge their actions is helpful; this is a great start to teaching empathy!

Ask the child (who hit) to help you get a cold cloth or some ice.

Ask the child who hit to stay with you and the hurt child until (the hurt child) feels ready to play again.

Remember as an (adult) that hitting comes from fear so the child who hit is figuring things out in their head, and they are not always capable of making the right decisions all the time.

Keeping clam and avoiding using words like “bad” or “naughty” is key. Try to remember it’s their actions we are not okay with (the hitting or scratching) not “them” as a person.

Travel

Mon, 29 Jan 2018 09:56:55 +0000

Hawaii Is My Heaven

Hawaii is my heaven on earth. I have visited Hawaii four times in the past seven years, and each time, I have more wonderful experiences .

Tasty Treats in LA
Traveling is a different experience for each of us. For some, it is lying on the beach and relaxing, and it is adventures that send a rush of heart pumping excitement for others. And for me, it is all about the tasty treats that each place I visit has to offer.

Most recently, I was in my old stomping grounds of sunny Los Angeles. Being a Canadian who spends most of the year bundled up and indoors, the seductive allure of the many outdoor and indoor restaurants is enough excitement to send me diving in head first. From Cuban, Mexican and Persian dining to juice bars, salad bars and the biggest assortment of fast food that you can imagine, LA is great because the city is home to people from all over the world who have different ways of cooking.

The season for sundresses and sandals has landed, and given how short-lived the Canadian summer always is, it’s a good idea to maximize your time spent outdoors during this pleasantly warm time of year.

Outdoor markets are a great excuse for spending time outside, and luckily for Canadians, plenty of markets pop up across the country during the warmer months of the year. Farmers display their fresh produce; artists showcase their latest masterpieces; and hand-made clothing and accessories are laid out under the sun.

By Megan Harman

By frequenting these markets, you can take a break from the frosty temperatures of air-conditioned supermarkets and shopping malls, and get some of your shopping done with the sun on your face and the breeze in your hair.

Market-goers can also feel good about supporting local businesses and entrepreneurs rather than major chains and foreign-based retailers. Since bargaining is fair game at many markets, you may be able to save a few bucks by shopping at a local market.

All posts by Sally

Mon, 29 Jan 2018 08:35:32 +0000

Till death do you part? What makes a person who is fully committed to another want to cheat? A sexless marriage? How about a partner who has gained so much extra weight they’re almost unrecognizable? Whatever the case, infidelity in marriage isn’t a shock factor anymore. According to Dr. Phil, 98 percent of men admitted to fantasizing about having sex with someone other than their partners in a recent survey.

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy found that 50 percent of couples who initiate couples counseling do so because of infidelity. Cheating could be a symptom of a deeper problem in marriage, but there’s no excuse for it in Ed Young’s eyes, pastor of Fellowship Church. He’s been very vocal on his standpoint on marriage and infidelity and says “If you’re going to have an affair, have one with your wife.” Ed Young Fellowship members are wise to heed his advice, as well as anyone else with straying thoughts.

Celebrities are front and center in all the tabloids. Why do we “normal folk” obsess about where celebrities eat, what they wear and where they shop? Perhaps because through their photos we can live vicariously through them. But even beautiful, rich and famous celebrities aren’t prone to infidelity.

Celebrities and Cheating
“Desperate Housewives” star Eva Longoria wed her basketball star Tony Parker in 2007, but their spicy marriage didn’t last long. She filed for divorce in 2010 and cited infidelity as a contributing factor.

As beautiful as Halle Berry is, she just can’t catch a break with men. Eric Benét gained attention in 2002 for alleged marriage problems. Rumors circulated that he cheated on her with multiple women and he alleged that he was a sex addict.

Sandra Bullock and Jesse James were an odd couple from the beginning. He had a reputation of being a bad guy and her a sweet and innocent young woman. So could anyone really be surprised that he cheated with a stripper after Bullock adopted a little boy?

Celebrity infidelity isn’t our only guilty pleasure. For decades infidelity has been show in top-grossing Hollywood movies and we just can’t get enough.

Our Fascination with Cheating in the Movies
Romantic comedies aren’t the only popular movies. Flicks featuring infidelity, obsession and straying eyes are always popular.

“Unfaithful” was a 2002 flick with Diane Lane, Richard Gere and Olivier Martinez. Connie Sumner (Lane) seems to have it all: A loving husband, a beautiful home and a wonderful son. But she wants more. After being approached by a handsome French bookseller (Martinez) she becomes obsessed with him, eventually having a steamy affair. Her husband Ed (Gere) notices the awkwardness in their marriage and becomes suspicious, finding out about her affair, leading to the bookseller’s death.

“Fatal Attraction” is the epitome of infidelity gone awry. Dan Gallagher (Michael Douglas) has a one-time affair with Alex Forrest (Glen Close) and quickly learns his one-night stand was a grave mistake. Forrest is an unstable and jealous woman who stalks his family and won’t let him go, leading to a disastrous ending.